Expanding the definition of sexuality invites us to expand the conversation about a topic that still has its taboos.
When I speak with individuals and groups about sexuality, I continue to find that most people define “sex” in one of two ways: 1) either male or female, or gender; and 2) as the physical, erotic or genital part of a relationship. This usually means intercourse. These definitions limit our understandings of our self and others. Sexuality means something much broader.
An expanded understanding of sexuality encompasses one’s whole-self, including their thoughts, experiences, ideas, values, and imaginings as collective understandings about who one is as a person.
One’s whole-self, or sexuality, embodies one’s understanding of gender, one’s sexual feelings inclusive of, but not limited to the physical, the way one participates in (or rejects) gender roles and stereotypes, and the relationships one moves into and out of throughout life. Frequently, these relationships connect us intellectually, emotionally, socially, spirituality, and sometimes physically.
Holding a PhD in Human Sexuality, I skillfully establish a comfortable and safe space for individuals, parents, and partners to talk about sexuality, a topic that, for many, is uncomfortable and embarrassing.
Common Reasons for Seeking a Sexuality Competent Therapist include:
- Creating a Sexually Positive Relationship
- Sexual Orientation
- Gender Non-conforming
- Transgender
- Sexuality Conversations
- Adolescent Sexuality Questions
- Creating Healthy Sexual Boundaries